Hilaria Baldwin, the wife of “Saturday Night Live” star Alec Baldwin, took the unusual step Thursday of going public with news that she is pregnant but that she is “most likely experiencing a miscarriage.” A day after her 61-year-old husband joked on “The Tonight Show” that he wouldn’t mind having a fifth child with Hilaria,
Hilaria Baldwin, the wife of “Saturday Night Live” star Alec Baldwin, took the unusual step Thursday of going public with news that she is pregnant but that she is “most likely experiencing a miscarriage.”
A day after her 61-year-old husband joked on “The Tonight Show” that he wouldn’t mind having a fifth child with Hilaria, the 35-year-old yoga instructor explained on Instagram that her fetus’ heartbeat was weak, meaning “the chances are very, very small that this is a viable pregnancy.”
I want to share with you that I am most likely experiencing a miscarriage. I always promised myself that if I were to get pregnant again, I would share the news with you guys pretty early, even if that means suffering a public loss. I have always been so open with you all about my family, fitness, pregnancies…and I don’t want to keep this from you, just because it isn’t as positive and shiny as the rest. I think it’s important to show the truth…because my job is to help people by being real and open. Furthermore, I have no shame or embarrassment with this experience. I want to be a part of the effort to normalize miscarriage and remove the stigma from it. There is so much secrecy during the first trimester. This works for some, but I personally find it to be exhausting. I’m nauseous, tired, my body is changing. And I have to pretend that everything is just fine—and it truly isn’t. I don’t want to have to pretend anymore. I hope you understand. So, this is what is going on now: the embryo has a heartbeat, but it isn’t strong, and the baby isn’t growing very much. So we wait—and this is hard. So much uncertainty…but the chances are very, very small that this is a viable pregnancy. I have complete confidence that my family and I will get through this, even if the journey is difficult. I am so blessed with my amazing doctor, my dear friends, and my loving family…My husband and my four very healthy babies help me keep it together and have the perspective of how truly beautiful life is, even when it occasionally seems ugly. The luck and gratitude I feel that I am my babies’ mommy, is wonderfully overwhelming and comforting. In your comments, please be kind. I’m feeling a bit fragile and I need support. I’m hoping, that by sharing this, I can contribute to raising awareness about this sensitive topic.
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Hilaria Baldwin, posing in her underwear and cradling her belly, said she has always tried to be open about her “family, fitness and pregnancies.” That’s why, the parenting podcaster said, she decided to use this not “positive or shiny” situation to remove “the stigma” that surrounds miscarriage, a common occurrence in early pregnancy.
“I think think it’s important to show the truth … because my job is to help people by being real and open,” Hilaria Baldwin wrote to her 524,000 Instagram followers.
“I have no shame or embarrassment with this experience,” Hilaria Baldwin wrote. “I want to be a part of the effort to normalize miscarriage and remove the stigma from it.”
Indeed, the Mayo Clinic reports that up to 20 percent of known pregnancies end in miscarriage, usually before the 12th week. But the actual number of miscarriages is likely higher because many occur so early in pregnancy that a woman doesn’t realize she’s pregnant.
Common symptoms of miscarriage include vaginal bleeding, pain or cramping in the abdomen and lower back, the Mayo Clinic said. A fetus that isn’t viable also may have a weak or non-existent heartbeat. About half of all miscarriages are caused by chromosomal abnormalities that occur by chance as the embryo divides and grows, the Mayo Clinic added.
Hilaria Baldwin rightly pointed out that women typically don’t tell many friends and family they are pregnant until they finish the first trimester, fearing miscarriage. But she correctly pointed out that problems in the first semester shouldn’t “be shrouded in secrecy.”
The mother of four children under age 5 and under, Hilaria Baldwin said she found it too “exhausting” to keep a secret.
“I’m nauseous, tired, my body is changing,” she wrote. “And I have to pretend that everything is just fine — and it truly isn’t. I don’t want to have to pretend anymore. I hope you understand.”
Hilaria Baldwin said she expected that she would get through this “difficult journey” with the help of her doctor, friends, husband and “four very healthy babies” who offer “the perspective of how truly beautiful life is, even when it occasionally seems ugly.”
She also appeared to expect she would be on the receiving end of negative comments given her own growing celebrity. But, of course, she’s also married to Alec Baldwin, one of Hollywood’s most politically outspoken and divisive actors who often is the target of social media criticism, including from President Trump himself.
“In your comments, please be kind,” Hilaria Baldwin asked. “I’m feeling a bit fragile and I need support. I’m hoping, that by sharing this, I can contribute to raising awareness about this sensitive topic.”
From the top comments on her post, it appeared that people took her plea to heart. Women also expressed gratitude to Hilaria Baldwin for bringing up the topic of miscarriage, with a number posting messages about their own experiences with pregnancy loss.
“I, too, have experienced a miscarriage via IVF,” wrote photo editor and producer Keri Light, who said she met Baldwin on a photo shoot. “The extreme excitement & the traumatizing sadness that follows are such a mind-screw. After multiple attempts, I have never had a baby. And I think about that every single day.”
“It is so important for you to share this,” wrote another woman. “I ache for you and don’t even know you. I had 3 miscarriages (2 early on and one beyond the CVS testing), all devastating.”
This woman then explained how she almost lost her fourth pregnancy when her baby was 20 weeks old. But fortunately, a sonogram diagnosed a problem with her cervix and it was treated.
The woman continued: “I was 38 when I had my first and only child, and my heart beat was and still is strong for all my lost babies. I know yours will too!!!”
Hilaria and Alec Baldwin have been married since 2012. Alec Baldwin was previously married to actress Kim Basinger, with whom he has a 23-year-old daughter, actress and model Ireland Baldwin. Hilaria Baldwin, a native of Spain, has authored several books on fitness and co-hosts the “Mom Brain” podcast, which deals with life, family, parenting and work-life balance.